By Anna Li

We Can Plan for Mars but Not for Peace? The Double Standard We Live By
Relationships

We Can Plan for Mars but Not for Peace? The Double Standard We Live By

On awareness, responsibility, and the part we keep avoiding

The Blame Trap: Why Knowing More Doesn't Make Us Wiser
Authorship

The Blame Trap: Why Knowing More Doesn't Make Us Wiser

The question "who is guilty?" is not the same as "what happened, and what do we do?"

The Snapshot Problem: Why People Build a Fixed Image of You and Never Update It
Relationships

The Snapshot Problem: Why People Build a Fixed Image of You and Never Update It

They don't see you. They see themselves, reflected back. They lash at their own pain using your name.

When Men Ask if I Cook and What It Reveals About them
Relationships

When Men Ask if I Cook and What It Reveals About them

What early priorities reveal about the kind of partnership we’re actually seeking

Love Without Expectation: What I Found on the Other Side
Love

Love Without Expectation: What I Found on the Other Side

On presence, quiet truth, and the dismantling of everything I thought love was

Everything You Think You Want Came from Someone Else
Authorship

Everything You Think You Want Came from Someone Else

We learn desire from observation. We watch people around us – family, peers, strangers on a screen – and we catalog what having a good life looks like.